After PR: #4135, If a mem tracker has parent, it should be created by 'CreateTracker'.
So I removed other unused constructors.
And also fix the bug described in #4344
We make all MemTrackers shared, in order to show MemTracker real-time consumptions on the web.
As follows:
1. nearly all MemTracker raw ptr -> shared_ptr
2. Use CreateTracker() to create new MemTracker(in order to add itself to its parent)
3. RowBatch & MemPool still use raw ptrs of MemTracker, it's easy to ensure RowBatch & MemPool destructor exec
before MemTracker's destructor. So we don't change these code.
4. MemTracker can use RuntimeProfile's counter to calc consumption. So RuntimeProfile's counter need to be shared
too. We add a shared counter pool to store the shared counter, don't change other counters of RuntimeProfile.
Note that, this PR doesn't change the MemTracker tree structure. So there still have some orphan trackers, e.g. RowBlockV2's MemTracker. If you find some shared MemTrackers are little memory consumption & too time-consuming, you could make them be the orphan, then it's fine to use the raw ptr.
This CL fixes the following problems
1. check whether TabletsChannel has been closed/cancelled in `reduce_mem_usage` to avoid using a closed DeltaWriter
2. make `FlushHandle.wait` wait for all submitted tasks to finish so that memtable is deallocated before its delta writer
3. make `~MemTracker()` release its consumption bytes to accommodate situations in aggregate_func.h that bitmap and hll call `MemTracker::consume` without corresponding `MemTracker::release`, which cause the consumption of root tracker never drops to zero
The new msg of limit exceed: "Memory exceed limit. %msg, Backend:%ip, fragment:%id Used:% , Limit:%. xxx".
This commit unifies the msg of 'Memory exceed limit' such as check_query_state, RETURN_IF_LIMIT_EXCEEDED and LIMIT_EXCEEDED.
