DEV: Replace #pluck_first freedom patch with AR #pick in core (#19893)

The #pluck_first freedom patch, first introduced by @danielwaterworth has served us well, and is used widely throughout both core and plugins. It seems to have been a common enough use case that Rails 6 introduced it's own method #pick with the exact same implementation. This allows us to retire the freedom patch and switch over to the built-in ActiveRecord method.

There is no replacement for #pluck_first!, but a quick search shows we are using this in a very limited capacity, and in some cases incorrectly (by assuming a nil return rather than an exception), which can quite easily be replaced with #pick plus some extra handling.

script/micro_bench.rb

@@ -14,7 +14,7 @@ Benchmark.ips do |b|
 
   b.report("pluck with limit") { User.limit(1).pluck(:name).first }
 
-  b.report("pluck with pluck_first") { User.pluck_first(:name) }
+  b.report("pluck with pick") { User.pick(:name) }
 
   b.report("raw") { conn.exec("SELECT name FROM users LIMIT 1").getvalue(0, 0) }
 end