By storing a link to the backend DCBs in the session object itself, we can
reach all related objects from the session. This removes the need to
iterate over all DCBs to find the set of related DCBs.
The internal header directory conflicted with in-source builds causing a
build failure. This is fixed by renaming the internal header directory to
something other than maxscale.
The renaming pointed out a few problems in a couple of source files that
appeared to include internal headers when the headers were in fact public
headers.
Fixed maxctrl in-source builds by making the copying of the sources
optional.
