SI messages now include the relevant database OID, so that operations
in one database do not cause useless cache flushes in backends attached
to other databases. Declare SI messages properly using a union, to
eliminate the former assumption that Oid is the same size as int or Index.
Rewrite the nearly-unreadable code in inval.c, and document it better.
Arrange for catcache flushes at end of command/transaction to happen before
relcache flushes do --- this avoids loading a new tuple into the catcache
while setting up new relcache entry, only to have it be flushed again
immediately.